{"id":21346,"date":"2024-10-03T13:29:32","date_gmt":"2024-10-03T13:29:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/pulsperry.com\/?p=21346"},"modified":"2025-02-10T11:55:13","modified_gmt":"2025-02-10T11:55:13","slug":"why-i-never-make-my-son-say-thank-you-or-sorry-it-could-psychologically-traumatize-him","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pulsperry.com\/?p=21346","title":{"rendered":"Why I Never Make My Son Say>>>>"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Why I Never Make My Son Say \u2018Thank You\u2019 or \u2018Sorry\u2019 \u2013 It Could Psychologically Traumatize Him<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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When it comes to parenting, there\u2019s no one-size-fits-all method. Different families embrace a variety of styles, from strict discipline to more relaxed approaches. Emma, a 38-year-old mother, belongs to the latter group. Recently, she shared her heartfelt story with Bright Side<\/em>, describing her journey to break free from the authoritarian parenting style she grew up with. Emma is now seeking advice from other parents, as her unconventional methods have sparked criticism, particularly from her husband and those around her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Emma\u2019s decision to parent differently stems from her own childhood experiences. Growing up, she was subjected to strict rules and high expectations from her parents, which left a lasting impact on her mental health. In her letter, she recalls, \u201cMy parents were authoritarian, and the pressure they put on me was immense. It led to anxiety and a strained relationship with them. For years, I didn\u2019t realize how much it affected my self-esteem.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Determined not to repeat the cycle, Emma decided that when she had children, she would raise them in a more compassionate and understanding environment. Her goal is to foster an atmosphere of love, respect, and open communication. \u201cI want my son Georgie to feel heard and valued, something I didn\u2019t always feel as a child,\u201d Emma explains. \u201cIt\u2019s important for him to learn empathy and responsibility, but I want to guide him through these lessons rather than impose them through strict rules.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, Emma\u2019s approach has not been without challenges. Her husband believes that Georgie, now 8 years old, should learn more traditional social norms, including the importance of apologies and understanding consequences. This difference in parenting styles has led to frequent disagreements between the couple. Emma believes that forcing children to apologize when they don\u2019t mean it can cause psychological harm. \u201cI won\u2019t make my son say sorry or thank you if he doesn\u2019t genuinely feel it,\u201d she states. \u201cForcing these behaviors can teach children to be insincere, and I don\u2019t want that for Georgie.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emma\u2019s philosophy was put to the test recently during an incident at the playground. When Georgie pushed another child, Emma chose not to demand an immediate apology. Instead, she approached the other child and apologized on her son\u2019s behalf, hoping Georgie would observe her actions and learn from her example. However, the other child\u2019s mother wasn\u2019t satisfied with this response and insisted that Georgie apologize directly. \u201cWhen I explained that I didn\u2019t want to force him to apologize because it could be harmful, she called me a bad and irresponsible mother,\u201d Emma recalls.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This incident added to the tension between Emma and her husband, who believes stricter discipline is necessary. Many of their friends and family members also disagree with Emma\u2019s methods. \u201cSome people think that being a good parent means controlling your child\u2019s actions to maintain your reputation,\u201d Emma says. \u201cBut I believe in being a friend to my son, helping him understand his emotions and navigate life together.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite the criticism, Emma stands by her approach, which focuses on creating a nurturing environment where Georgie can develop a sense of freedom and responsibility. She emphasizes that her method doesn\u2019t mean she ignores her role as a parent. \u201cI\u2019m not saying I\u2019m equal to my son, but I don\u2019t view myself as superior to him either,\u201d she explains. \u201cWe have a strong bond, and when I need time to myself, I tell him. Now he\u2019s learning to do the same with me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Still, the constant judgment from others has made Emma question whether she\u2019s on the right path. As she concluded her letter, she wrote, \u201cI\u2019ve always believed in my parenting style, and I\u2019ve seen positive results. But with all the criticism from my husband and other parents, I\u2019m starting to doubt myself. I\u2019d love to hear from other parents\u2014what do you think of my approach?\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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