{"id":64255,"date":"2025-06-12T12:10:49","date_gmt":"2025-06-12T12:10:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/pulsperry.com\/?p=64255"},"modified":"2025-06-12T12:10:49","modified_gmt":"2025-06-12T12:10:49","slug":"if-they-make-lo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pulsperry.com\/?p=64255","title":{"rendered":"If They Make Lo."},"content":{"rendered":"

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If When You Make Love, Your Partner Doesn\u2019t Kiss You\u2026 Here\u2019s What It Might Mean \"\ud83d\ude33\"<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s face it: making love without kissing is like eating spaghetti without sauce\u2014technically possible, but something just feels\u2026 off.<\/p>\n

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If your partner doesn\u2019t kiss you during intimacy, you might start spiraling:\u00a0Is it me? Is it them? Is it both of us and a ghost of bad chemistry past?<\/i>\u00a0But don\u2019t panic just yet. There are some surprisingly\u00a0real<\/i>\u00a0reasons why someone might skip kissing in bed\u2014and it\u2019s not always about a lack of love or attraction.<\/p>\n

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Let\u2019s break it down. \"\ud83d\ude18\"<\/p>\n

1.\u00a0Not Everyone Grew Up Kissing<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Believe it or not,\u00a0some cultures don\u2019t emphasize kissing at all.<\/strong>\u00a0In fact, a study published in\u00a0American Anthropologist<\/i>\u00a0found that only\u00a046% of 168 cultures<\/strong>\u00a0surveyed worldwide practice romantic or sexual kissing. That means for over half the world\u2019s population, kissing isn\u2019t a natural part of intimacy!<\/p>\n

So if your partner isn\u2019t into kissing, they might just be wired differently\u2014or raised in an environment where kissing was seen as either too intimate, too awkward, or just not \u201ca thing.\u201d<\/p>\n

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2.\u00a0They Might Be Emotionally Guarded<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Kissing\u2014especially on the lips\u2014is one of the\u00a0most emotionally vulnerable<\/strong>\u00a0things you can do. It involves direct eye contact, physical closeness, and breathing in sync. That\u2019s some\u00a0serious intimacy<\/i>.<\/p>\n

According to psychologist Dr. Susan Krauss Whitbourne, \u201cKissing increases the emotional stakes of a relationship. It\u2019s a face-to-face act of trust.\u201d<\/p>\n

So, if your partner avoids kissing, it might be because it makes them feel\u00a0too emotionally exposed<\/strong>\u2014even more so than sex itself.<\/p>\n

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3.\u00a0They\u2019re Focused on Performance, Not Connection<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Let\u2019s be real: sometimes people treat intimacy like a to-do list. Check this box, move to that position, now done. \"\ud83d\udcbc\"<\/p>\n

In those cases, kissing\u2014being slow, tender, and unstructured\u2014doesn\u2019t \u201cfit\u201d into the performance routine. If that\u2019s your partner, it doesn\u2019t mean they don\u2019t care about you. But it might mean they\u2019re\u00a0disconnected from the emotional side of intimacy<\/strong>, and more tuned into the physical outcome.<\/p>\n

It might be time to\u00a0talk about slowing things down<\/i>\u00a0and rediscovering what made kissing fun in the first place.<\/p>\n

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4.\u00a0Mouth Insecurity Is Real<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Yep.\u00a0Bad breath<\/strong>,\u00a0dental issues<\/strong>, or even something as small as\u00a0chapped lips<\/strong>\u00a0can make someone avoid kissing like it\u2019s a job interview.<\/p>\n

In a 2019 survey by Match.com, over\u00a067% of singles<\/strong>\u00a0said that bad breath was a deal-breaker on a date. And over\u00a040%<\/strong>\u00a0admitted to avoiding kisses when they weren\u2019t \u201cmouth-ready.\u201d So maybe your partner\u2019s silence isn\u2019t rejection\u2014it\u2019s just gum-related self-awareness. \"\ud83d\ude02\"<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0They Associate Kissing With Deep Love<\/strong><\/h3>\n

This might sound odd, but some people only kiss when they\u2019re\u00a0truly in love<\/i>. For them, sex might just be a fun or casual activity\u2014but kissing? That\u2019s sacred.<\/p>\n

This idea was highlighted in a study from the University of Oxford, which found that people often use kissing as a\u00a0biological filter<\/strong>\u2014a way to subconsciously determine if someone\u2019s a long-term mate. So if they\u2019re\u00a0not<\/i>\u00a0kissing you, it could be because they\u2019re subconsciously trying\u00a0not<\/i>\u00a0to fall too hard, too fast.<\/p>\n

Crazy, right?<\/p>\n

So What Should You Do?<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019re feeling confused or rejected because your partner doesn\u2019t kiss during intimacy, you\u2019re\u00a0not alone<\/i>. But here\u2019s what you\u00a0shouldn\u2019t<\/strong>\u00a0do: overthink in silence.<\/p>\n

Instead, try this:<\/p>\n

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  • Talk about it.<\/strong>Calmly ask, \u201cHey, I\u2019ve noticed we don\u2019t kiss much. Is that something you think about?\u201d<\/li>\n
  • Be open.<\/strong>Share what kissing means toyou<\/i>. For some, it\u2019s just a habit. For others, it\u2019s love\u2019s fingerprint.<\/li>\n
  • Test the waters.<\/strong>Add a kiss before things heat up and see how they respond. It might awaken something!<\/li>\n
  • Keep it light.<\/strong>No need to accuse them. Humor + honesty = best results.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    Final Thought<\/h3>\n

    Kissing isn\u2019t just a physical act\u2014it\u2019s a message. Sometimes that message is \u201cI love you,\u201d sometimes it\u2019s \u201cYou taste like garlic bread,\u201d and sometimes\u2026 it\u2019s just \u201cI\u2019m here, with you.\u201d<\/p>\n

    So next time you\u2019re lying there thinking,\u00a0Why didn\u2019t they kiss me?<\/i>\u00a0\u2014 remember, it\u2019s not always about love lost. It could be about culture, insecurity, or even strategy. And the best way to find out?<\/p>\n

    Use your lips\u2026 to talk. \"\ud83d\ude09\"<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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