Our reader always imagined that marriage was about just the two of them. But when her husband’s mom started making every decision—from what car to buy to their baby planning—it became too much. One day, she found something that shook her to the core. Can their marriage survive this shift?
I am about to lose my marriage just because of my MIL. Kindly advise and share your opinions on this!
I always imagined that marriage is mainly about two people only. Instead, I got what I got. My husband’s mom is always around. Especially when we make more or less serious decisions.
What car to buy? He calls her. Redecorating? We can’t do that without her approval. Last time, she shook her head at my choices and decided for us.
The breaking point came at a family dinner last week. My MIL frowned and said, “Why didn’t you talk to me before you started trying for a baby? I could have given you so many good tips. Do you know the secret of having a boy, for example?”
We understand—you feel trapped by your mother-in-law’s constant presence in your marriage. The key question is: can you and your husband make things work despite her involvement? Start by clarifying your needs and boundaries. Say, “I’m okay with your mom being involved, but I need us to make decisions together first.” Model the respect and independence you want to see—don’t invite her input, and if she offers unsolicited advice, calmly respond, “Thanks, but we’ve decided.” Finally, give yourself permission to walk away if nothing changes. A “mama’s boy” can grow up, but only if he truly wants to.
